Advice for Single Folks, Part I

So I know you guys (and gals) are waiting for my 2-cents on love and relationships, with the engagement and falling in love and all. So let's talk a bit, shall we? And technically speaking I am still single, in terms of being unmarried, so I will listen to my own advice. *Note: C is my fiance. I will refer to him with that letter from here on.

He Is Into You
This implies that you know when he is NOT into you. You don't have to reason why he ain't calling, or why he is playing ghost, or why he seems disinterested or distant at times. It's plain and simple ... if he wants you, he WANTS you. He will chase after you, and go the extra mile to please you. If you are stuck one night at home, pondering "why hasn't he..." or "why didn't he...", don't waste your time for too long if its a pattern. You can't reason through this ... it is what it is. Not only will he do things, but he will go beyond your expectations. For V-Day last year, C did that for me for our "first date", and has kept it up ever since. He took me on a romantic evening, and I am still amazed. I remember we snuck into a hotel downtown, and we walked & walked, and I had no clue what he was doing. He was looking for a piano. He found one on a main balcony, and played it for me at 1:00 in the morning :) I was smitten then :)

He Gets You
To follow up on the point above, he really gets you. He understands your personality, he wants to know about your dreams in life, and he wants to patiently grow with you. This is a big sticking point for me. A few guys in my past wanted a serious relationship because I was single, pretty, had no kids, and had a lot of good things going for myself. But honey, that's not enough. I need you to get me. And, I need to get you. I want to know where you are headed, what you are like when you get mad or upset, and what's deep in your heart and soul. When C and I got into our first official 'fight', thats when we knew we "get" each other. Neither of us likes screaming and arguing, so we each handled it in our own way, then came back together and talked it out. It was simply amazing, and we know we have even more 'fights' and 'making up' to look forward to :)

He Does Not Expect Superwoman
We all should know this by now, but NO ONE IS PERFECT! Just like we love our family and friends despite flaws, we have to do the same with our signif others. Quite a few guys are looking for this superhero woman ... gorgeous, can cook and clean, intelligent, not crazy, good in bed, great confidence, etc., etc., etc. We all want great mates, but the truth is ... do you really know what you need? (that goes for men and women) I really believe that when you (a) know you come up short in quite a few areas, or (b) have no freakin idea what you want ... all you can do is aim for perfection, because we think that will promise success and happiness. We have to love each other for the good, the bad, and the ugly.